Assessment vs. Assumption
The last post caused more disagreement in the ranks than I expected. A lot of people defended the “other” tank’s initial issue – that my buddy was tanking in fury spec – though none condoned his nasty approach. Other commentators suggested that my buddy who was in both tanking and healing pieces was also in the wrong as he wasn’t maximizing dps and was thus slowing the run.
I disagree with both, but the specifics of the issue aren’t really what bother me; more the philosophical approach people are using to decide what side they’re on makes me worried, as I think it shows a pretty fundamental shift in how we treat others in WoW. I – and I fully acknowledge that it may just be me – would always ask first if a person realized they were in an off-role spec. It seems here that making an assumption about the other player before the situation is assessed has become perfectly acceptable.
That bothers me. I’m not sure if perhaps I’m simply misunderstanding the core of these situations, but it seems to me that players involved in these sort of “tech bullying” situations virtually always make assumptions before they try to see what’s going on. It’s a situation of assumed “haves” and “have-nots,” then, as the people who think they “have” the knowledge and know what they’re talking about are attacking people that they assume know less, when in fact it’s them that’s in the wrong.
Of course that happens; I’ve been as guilty of it as the next guy, but I also recognize that in odd situations it’s usually a better approach to assess first, to see if perhaps I’m the one that’s confused or ignorant. That comes down just to self-image, I guess, as I’d never be arrogant enough to assume that I know more than the next guy in WoW (maybe in other things, but not WoW), but clearly there are many players out there who do assume they know more than a stranger (perhaps rightly so, of course, but not in these cases).
So in whatever situations you may find yourself, I’d suggest you make sure you assess before you assume. A fury tank can and has worked. A pally tank in part holy gear pre-level 60 seems to be valid (though you’ll have to take Kaleedity’s word for it). Hell, shaman tanks were a thing for a while back in BC. Sometimes things aren’t what they seem in WoW, and it doesn’t hurt to just ask.
Stubborn (and willing to assess first)