Since apparently my guild drama makes for entertaining reading, I’m going to put off a post I’ve had in mind for a while – the Guild Counter-App, or what to ask a guild before you join – and continue my apparently unending series of guild drama. In fact, things have heated up a bit since my last post, and not in a good way, though, again, none of this really has much to do with me (which is both a relief and a potential pile for me to step right in).
Monday night, after our last correspondence, the upset guild member did come online after raid time (which was irrelevant, because we had no raid, because there were no healers, perhaps – only perhaps – because they’d gotten raiding out of their system in the private raid the night before), and I was able to eventually work my magic and get her in the same room as an officer so they could talk. The good news was the the officers – including the one I was unsure of – were unaware of what was going on with the calendar invites, confirmed that we were supposed to be holding our SoO normal lockouts for sanctioned guild runs, and essentially completely agreed with her point of view, even talking about how upset they also were, so she was quite happy – no, not happy. Being left out doesn’t let people be happy, but let’s go with quite vindicated – after the conversation. More would be said on Wednesday to the whole guild, but for that moment, things seemed pretty smoothed over. I was very pleased by the excellent work by the officers involved.
Then came Tuesday. On Tuesday nights, we have our unofficial “guild” LFRs. You can come if you want or not, and it’s certainly not a requirement to run with the guild if you don’t want to. Around that time, I logged on and chatted a bit with an officer who was asking me about what had come of the previous events. He started invites and grabbed me into the raid right way, but even though there were between 15 and 20 people on, no one else seemed interested, which was odd, since this was a guild created event, not an officer created one.
As the actual start time approached, we were still the only two people in the raid. Oh well, I figured, we’ll still go and do it. He had hit up /gchat over and over, and I’d punctuated his with humorous pleas for help., and a few people had already done it, so fine. But then, right before we queued, someone asked, “Wait, are you not in this LFR group?”
Well, that was very confusing. Were there two groups? The officer had asked about that in /gchat to make sure that wasn’t the case, but had gotten no response. Okay, well, it must have been an oversight. We dropped our group and jumped into the much larger raid group that had about 10 people in it. In the meantime, a few other people had just logged on and expressed interest, and since no one in our group was responding and I had an assist, I scooped them up.
Then half the raid dropped, almost simultaneously.
Uh-oh, I thought. This is the same thing happening as did Sunday, and this officer’s going to go bananas.
Which, in the long term, is essentially what happened. Sure, there had to be some verification and whatnot in between, but it seems that the other LFR group had intentionally been being selective about who to bring to their LFR of all things, and officers and apparently a few others of us didn’t make the cut. The officer then apologized for what was happening and switched vent rooms to – I assume, I didn’t go with him – ream the other group. There will be more on that tonight, which I’m not looking forward to, but will report back to you nonetheless on Friday.
I’m not sure whether I was just unlucky and ended up with the officer or was being intentionally excluded. Three of the people in the “elite” group – not including the “inadvertent” (quotes are to indicate I’m not sure it was an accident, and I want to believe it was not) whistle-blower – are people who I thought were friendly to me and who I previously had a lot of respect for. Regardless of whether it was accidental or intentional exclusion, it didn’t feel too good, but fine; I’m new. I get it. Maybe I haven’t proven my chops yet.
But… but there was another player in my group who I could tell was really hurt by the perceived (and likely real) exclusion. She made some self-deprecating jokes along the lines of “I know I’m a bad rogue, but I’m not so bad I can’t do LFR,” which were to cloak that she was upset by what happened. I tried to lighten the mood a little with “You’re not a bad rogue, you’re just a rogue; the bad is redundant!” and then transitioned to Cynwise’s report on class distribution to get away from the sad stuff, but of course there’s only so much I could do.
There was another officer still with us in the the vent channel, a non-native English speaker known for his stoicism and cool-headedness, and he was getting pretty vocal and upset about what was going on. That, of course, brought the issue back to the forefront, so while we went into our own “loser” LFR (which was a loser LFR, but not because of any of us), people were a bit blue.
It wasn’t a good night. We got into a group that was stuck on the last boss and remained stuck until our determination buff finally overcame the extremely poor play of other raiders who simply could or would not switch to adds and refrain from dpsing the boss during defensive stance phase. We spent a good two hours grinding that same boss, waiting for replacement tanks, and grinding some more. That, on top of the implication that we were somehow the “sub-par” group (even though one of the officers was blowing up the dps meter and the rest of us were in the top 6 of the raid’s dps), really took the jam out of a lot of our donuts.
We’ll see what happens tonight. I truly hope the second-time new father doesn’t have to come back and lay down the law; he has and deserves other priorities right now. I also hope it’s not just a slamfest of officers trashing the elite; as a teacher, I hate that kind of holistic lecture that’s really only directed at a few. Additionally, I hope it’s not a nasty, name-calling contentious debate between the officers and the “elite” set.
But I’m not sure if it can go any other way. It’s the Internet, after all.
Stubborn (and unhappily anxious)