I’ve bumped into another sticky guild situation, which fortunately has little to do with me but certainly got me thinking. Last night, I logged on just to fool around and saw that there was a full guild raid in Siege of Orgrimmar. Well, this isn’t the first time people have thrown together a raid that I’ve been offline for the start of. That’s hardly anyone’s fault but my own, so I didn’t pay it any mind.
Then I got a whisper from another member who’s become a buddy of mine. This member, let’s call him “Rodney” (since he in the end kept quiet and I don’t want to out him) asked “Are you feeling left out like I am?” I responded that I didn’t understand what he meant, but in retrospect it should have been obvious he was talking about the raid. He was hurt, he said, because this was not a spontaneous event. Apparently, calendar invites were sent out to a select few, and those were the people who got to go.
I checked, and I don’t believe anyone in there was an officer, though that one loudmouthed neanderthal I’ve mentioned before may be a “junior” officer, and he was in there, so I’m not sure whether or not it should be considered a “guild” event.
Now I’m very torn on the issue. I don’t like exclusivity in things like gaming. Most of us early adopters fled to gaming from the “real” world because we were being excluded in the first place. I don’t think gaming should be something that makes you feel bad, either, so when people’s behavior within a game does, I feel like that behavior’s out of place.
But here’s the thing. It didn’t really bother me that I hadn’t been invited. From a legislative standpoint, if there were no “real” officers involved, and if it wasn’t a “sanctioned” guild event, then I wouldn’t want to be told I had to invite everyone to something I was organizing; I’d damn sure not invite that one fellow I don’t like, for example.
Still, my healing buddy was upset, so regardless of how I felt, I suggested that he speak to an officer about it because they might not even be aware of the situation. This member didn’t want to, though, as he was very frustrated. It seems the matter cut deeper for him than just this one raid. You may remember, dear reader, that I mentioned our foray back into Throne of Thunder. Since we didn’t flex with the 18 or so that showed up, the “best” of the players – who “don’t need gear from ToT” -dropped raid, ostensibly to “let the people who need the gear get the gear.” On the other hand, they didn’t have to put up with a wipefest all night, like the rest of us “lower tier” did. Well, those were a majority of the people in SoO normal last night. So they don’t have to raid flex with the “weakerthans” because they can just make their own normal raid and go without us.
Now please understand this is all paraphrased from my discussion with my guild buddy, and while there’s some truth to it, it doesn’t fully reflect how I feel. Not fully – but I do recognize a kernel of truth at the middle of it. The hard facts – the people who didn’t go to ToT were the ones in that private raid – stand on their own. I interpret them a little more kindly, perhaps, but I can’t ignore them. On top of that, the GM rended a lot of these same people two weeks ago (at release) because they’d done the same thing, minus the secret invite (that’s the one I missed just for being offline at the time). However, he just had a newborn and has other priorities, so this is going on while he’s away. It certainly seems a bit suspicious, so I figured I’d dig a little and see what I found.
After my buddy logged, I did my normal and very convincing “play dumb” act and asked in guild about the raid and how it was going, and sure enough someone mentioned that not everyone was “invited,” which allowed me to privately ask an officer what they meant by invited – was this an event I had not been “invited” to? The officer either also played dumb to avoid drama, which honestly I can respect, or truly didn’t know that they’d done calendar invites. No one seemed to know except my healing buddy, who’d overheard them talking about it in vent the night before.
So I don’t know. I know I wouldn’t want to be ordered to invite everyone to everything I do. I don’t want to play with incessantly negative, vulgar, or bigoted people. I also know that hiding things and excluding others usually doesn’t end well. So I’m not sure, really, what to think.
Stubborn (and torn)