When the Inmates Run the Asylum
First, a look back:
My warrior, I assume, I’ll push through dungeons as prot, though I’m not 100% sure I want to expose myself to that. We’ll see.
Coreus, valued reader and frequent commentator:
You will fly through leveling dungeons as a prot warrior. The greatest risk is boredom. What is the thing you’re worried about exposing yourself to?
In answer to your question, the thing I’m worried about exposing myself to is the public. I’ve had a lot of bad experiences in LFD at many different levels, so the fear of coming across more jerks and morons genuinely makes me feel fear. In the few dungeons I’ve done, both by myself and with others I know and trust, I’ve yet to have one that was jerk-free. Either people running ahead of me and pulling, needing on everything, or simply being rude hurriers, I’ve yet to have a problem-free dungeon.
Well, dear reader, it seems my “we’ll see” has become “we’ve seen.” It’s a jungle out there. I mentioned before several of those problems that the dungeon’s simplicity helped remedy, but over the weekend, I reaffirmed that there’s a problem that no amount of ease could rectify: needy jerks.
In several of the past dungeons I’ve done, needy jerks have simply been rolling “need” on everything they could get their grubby, greedy little hands on. I really don’t care too much about gear; I’m mostly decked in heirloom stuff anyway, and I’ve got two gathering professions so money’s not that big a deal for me. Still, I don’t like people screwing over others for a few bucks in vendor gold. In some cases, after the second or third off-stat need, I’ve asked they not need everything, and when they continued (not if – I’ve yet to have one change their ways), I asked someone to vote to kick them since my VtK is on a perpetual 4 hour cooldown. Honestly, when this happens, it happens. I’m not particularly upset, though I don’t understand why Blizz would let mages need on tank items or rogues need on caster gear. Of course, Blizz has made it pretty clear they don’t care about leveling balance, so I assume that having leveling gear stolen falls into this category of “things Blizz thinks you should just put up with” as well.
Of course, Blizz doesn’t think you should have to put up with the bug that allowed you to loot The Heart of the Mountain through the wall, so we’re back to that quest being impossible to complete, since no other players stay for the whole dungeon and the keys disappear when you leave, so even after a full clear it’s entirely likely you don’t have enough (it’s happened twice to me now), but I digress.
What happens, then, when the system fails? Should you just suck it up, realize it’s just a short dungeon run, and put up with the bad behavior? Perhaps. Perhaps I should have, but alas, dear reader, that’s not the story I have to tell.
In one of my and my wife’s Zul’Farrak runs, we ended up with a needy jerk with a buddy from his guild and a fifth “neutral” member from a different server. As the dungeon progressed, I noticed the needy jerk needing on every green and every boss item. I mentioned to him that I didn’t think he needed an str / stamina helm, which he’d needed from the neutral paladin player (since I have an heirloom), and his response was “Shut up baby.”
Indeed. I initiated the vote to kick, expecting that my wife and the neutral paladin would send him packing. Instead, it failed. Now I think I’ve made it pretty widely known that I have a hard time dealing with this sort of thing. In the face of what I could only call insanity, I put into party chat “Well, there’s more than one way to skin a cat. I’m going to stand right here until you drop group. I guarantee I can stand here longer than your queue will be, so really, you should drop party and save us all some time. I’ll be back in five minutes to see if you’re gone yet.” Then I alt-tabbed out and read some emails and webcomics. My wife, though, watched the screen, crafted some pots, etc, so if the mage(s) had left, I’d be able to come back right away.
Five minutes passed and nothing. Okay, they can be stubborn, well, so can I. I came back and said, “Still here? Five more minutes then. I WILL make this longer than the queue.” Then a vote to kick popped up for my wife, which of course I voted against, but she was removed from the group.
Then I was.
The neutral paladin, then, who’d had a blue piece of gear stolen from him by one of the needy jerks, who’d voted AGAINST kicking the needy jerk, must have voted to kick my wife and I.
I hopped on to the paladin’s server and made a new toon so I could speak to him. I wanted to understand why he would make the decisions he made. I wrote him several explanatory, extremely polite and forgiving tells, making it clear I didn’t want to attack him or harass him but just get his side of the story for my blog. I spent probably 15 minutes and 200 words trying to ask him for an answer, something to clarify why he’d decided what he’d decided, but never got a response.
My takeaway from all this is that LFD is precisely what I was afraid it was: an asylum where the lunatics have all the keys. For every dungeon I have that runs smoothly (has there even been a single one? I don’t think so, but I’ll give hope the benefit of the doubt), I must have 5 that don’t. Between the people who chain pull while my wife’s desperately trying to get some mana, causing me to eventually run out of cooldowns and die, which then causes a wipe (just to have them blame the healer and do it all again or drop), to the needy jerks, to the afk asses who say at the start, “brb” and don’t reappear before the first boss, I’ve yet to come across 3 decent people at once. Just three.
I know we are all aware of the sad state of LFD, but this eviction has really taken a toll on me mentally. Perhaps if I could understand the paladin, if he could explain how thieving assholes were a preferable choice to someone standing up against thieving assholes, how requeueing for a dps was worse than requeueing for a tank and healer, then I could feel balanced again. I know there’s jerks out there. I’ve dealt with them in every dungeon. Now even the neutral people seem to be siding with the jerks, though. Are there really so many that it’s easier just to become one than stand up against them?
I haven’t done an LFD since. I’ve done some BGs, but when we hit the 55-59 bracket, that’ll be pointless, as the BC geared toons will vaporize the competition. I’ve done bonfires, trying to steal enough xp to gain a few levels. I just can’t justify at this point going back into LFD when my wife and I may be kicked for standing up for decency and fairness.
I’m this close to being done with the 10×85, but I’m starting to have my doubts. TSW is around the corner, and I don’t know if I’m going to want to go back into a dungeon again. Sure, I can quest, but that wasn’t the point, was it? I suppose we’ll just have to wait and see.
Stubborn (and once again deflated)