Today, after all the negativity that’s been flying around here, I thought I’d take a moment to look at the several good things that are going on in my game-playing life.
For one, thanks to my buddy taking me on flex raids with his guild, I’ve met several new, fun people. One of them, a druid healer, has been great to play with partially because she never gives my buddy an inch, She’s an excellent healer and a good teammate to just hang out in Mumble with, so I look forward to continuing to get to know her. My wife says that my buddy and I upset her in the flex raid by teasing her too much, so hopefully this will help smooth over any rough waters. I don’t want to be on the bad side of a healer!
Another one of the new people I’ve met is a mage who’s constantly dissatisfied with his dps, which is a consistent 250k. He’s not being elitist or nasty about it (though of course he’s likely showing off a bit, but I like it when I’m top dps in LFRs, too, so I can’t fault him), but he is funny and certainly likes giving true slackers their due.
In fact, that’s one of the things I’ve liked about this group; I’m truly the underdog here both from a gear, practice, and knowledge point of view, and they let me know it in a friendly and supportive way without being nasty when I make a mistake (and I make plenty). On Nazgrim two weeks ago, I stood in three of his ground effects, and I got politely called on it. Last night, I only got caught by one, and while a general comment was made, I felt better that I’d improved and had not, perhaps, drawn notice about it this time. The comment, in fact, was more likely directed at the many others who were standing in effects, since we got 4 ravagers (at least), which couldn’t possibly have been from me alone.
That’s something that a lot of more casual guilds lack: the willingness to put players’ performance out there. It may be because they’re worried about people taking it personally or because they feel like that type of scrutiny doesn’t fit a casual atmosphere. I think this is partially why I’ve had such a hard time finding the right place; I want scrutiny and advice and honesty when I make a mistake (without Raid Leader rages, of course), and I know I’m objective enough to handle it without much more than a little pouting and self-flagellation on my part. In turn, I expect the same from others, and, as I wrote about before, in some of my guilds it’s just not considered acceptable.
That baffles me; don’t people who are doing poorly want to know specific ways in which to improve? Of course, the fallacy there is that not everyone thinks the same way I do or wants to play the game the way I do.
Perhaps, then, we get closer to a true definition of casual; it’s not just about putting people first, because honestly in most of my casual guilds the team – the guild or raid team or whatever – was still put before personal desires. I think instead it has to do with whether people are able to run free and ignorant or not. More serious guilds expect basic levels of knowledge and performance, and as a result, are more willing to treat their members like teammates as opposed to individuals. Note that those two words aren’t mutually exclusive; people recognize a teammate as a person, but that person is known to be part of a larger system. Maybe casual guilds simply don’t acknowledge that larger system; they’re just a bunch of people having fun.
Regardless, whether or not I’m just joyriding right now or are becoming part of a larger system, I don’t know. In the next few weeks, that will reveal itself with no real work on my part. For now, I’m just tagging along to flex raids set up by my buddy and his friends and enjoying the successful and – as a result – more carefree attitudes.
I look forward to playing with them more.
Stubborn (Remediating Inadvertent Loss Of Sympathy)